Reduction, minimization, lessening the load, getting rid of dead weight, and simplifying has been my journey for these past several years.
I sold my 3 bedroom, 2 story home, 5 years ago, in suburbia, and moved into a 2 bedroom, 2 bath high rise on the 20th floor, in a downtown metropolis. For 4 years, I used the second bedroom to store clothes and to occasionally throw a mattress down for someone to crash. Definitely a waste of space.
One year ago, I moved closer to the downtown valley, where I hear birds in the morning. The lush river washes me with calm and the greenery excites my senses every single day. My condo is a one bedroom with a galley kitchen. It’s small, renovated, quaint and yet feels like a castle perched on top of a hill. It’s all I need to feel safe, comfortable, happy and completely me.
I need very little to feel content.
Part of this adventure is to let go of “friends.” People, who online, haven’t spoken, liked, or commented on anything I’ve posted, in years. This “unfriending” process is not personal. It’s necessary. If I’ve made a mistake and you’re interested in still reading my thoughts, you can also follow, or re-request. Even if we live in the same city but haven’t ever really communicated, it’s time to go our separate ways. In the same way, feel free to pull the plug on me. If you’ve “unfollowed” me… it’s time to walk away. But you won’t even read this
So what is truly happening???
I want Real. Tangible. Honest. Parred Down. Nothing Fake.
I’m loving my life. Living with less and experiencing more. I’m reducing “have to” connections and creating long lasting friendships. I’m simplifying the stuff and maximizing love.
Some days, wouldn’t it be great to take a final bow and say, “All done here folks… next show is whenever the fuck I decide to get out of bed!”
Checking out is a common practice of the overwhelmed… we have so much on our plate we freeze, run or shut the fuck down.
I get it.
Working on it.
Getting WAY better.
What I DO know is this: when we’re consistent with self care, mindfulness and doing our best to stay present; we can uncover moments of peace and joy. And yes, even in the most hectic day.
The thing is, it’s easy to self love when we’re happy and life is just clicking along.
You’re so worthy to be continuous with your mindbody health…
No one else can do it for us.
So take a bow, but get back out there for the encore! You’ll get the inner applause from knowing you continued forward…
You got this!
Shifting gears after our minds are “set” in a certain direction, can be a difficult concept to accept.
We fight, resist, ignore signs and ultimately spin our wheels feeling disconnected and frustrated that our lives haven’t turned out the way we planned.
I know this feeling well, because… I used to live this way.
My control tendencies were once high. In younger years, my world was completely out of control; I grasped, held onto and if I had an idea of what was going to happen - I wouldn’t deviate. The fear of the unknown was too much for my fragile nervous system to take.
Fast forward several years of therapy, meditation, earth medications and understanding the mind and its tendencies… I have LEARNED to allow life to unfold as it should.
This means I still work towards goals and have plans, but ultimately stay OPEN to twists and turns along the way.
We are, unfortunately, built with personal parameters of what we THINK we can and cannot do. This means that even the most seemingly powerful humans can still be set within self imposed limitations.
Letting go, opening up to possibilities and seeing life for opportunities rather than doors that’ve closed, gives us an ability to soar with the eagles.
Trusting your abilities, inner wisdom, differences and non conforming intuitive gifts, may ultimately be what makes your life go from “ok,” to really good, to pretty fucking awesome.
It takes time. My humble suggestion is to walk slowly and mindfully… but just keep going… xo